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How I Overcame My Shopping Addiction

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Hello my name is Melodie and I am addicted to shopping… Or at least I use to be.

Last year, a few months before our vow renewal, packages were arriving at our door step almost every day. After about the 7th package my husband put his foot down and told me to stop shopping. I was devastated! How was I going to resist not being able to buy all the cute clothes, shoes and accessories that caught my eye.

Although the Mr put a halt to my mini (and frequent) shopping sprees, it was only temporary; just until we got through our renewal in January. Going on an (involuntary) shopping fast was a huge eye opener. No more impulse buying. No more buying because the deal is to good to pass up. And as painful as it was (at first) I really needed it. It forced me to actually wear the old and new things already in my closet. Also after about a month I noticed a few extra coins sitting in my account since I wasn’t spending money on things I didn’t even need.

During my no shopping period I learned a few things…

-      I shopped out of FOMO (fear of missing out).  I felt that if I didn’t get the item then I’d miss out on it forever – especially if the item was on sale.

-      I shopped because I was bored and had the money to spend.

-      I shopped if I was in a bad mood or a good mood. Shopping was a mood!

-      I shopped if I saw another style influencer with something I wanted.

-      I shopped just because.

Realizing that I have plenty of clothes in my closet and understanding that I didn’t need to buy every single item I saw was major. Truth be told most of the stuff I was buying I wasn’t immediately wearing anyway (I mean I still have items I’ve never worn from two and three years ago - sad right). This is why I’m on my Shop Your Closet journey. Not only am I saving money, I’m rediscovering different ways to wear a few of my fave pieces. Aaannnddd, I know longer have to deal with buyer’s remorse - the sense of regret after having made a purchase.

Nowadays I’m learning to be more intentional about how I spend my money. The level of discipline I’ve achieved has been quite rewarding. However for you that may still struggle with excessive shopping or overspending you’re not alone. If I’m being honestly I still have moments when I fight (mentally) against the urge to shop (I’ve lost a few times). And though I’ve not quit shopping entirely, I’ve curtailed it a lot. 

If you want to cut down on shopping so much, let me share with you a few steps I’ve taken to help me maintain the need to shop, shop, shop.

-       Don’t buy it the first time you see something.  Wait at least two weeks or more and if after waiting a few weeks you still feel the same way about the item and it’s in your budget - buy it.

-        Ask yourself do I really need this item.  Do I have something similar already that works?

-        Shop your own closet. Look for ways to re-wear items you already have.

-        Organize your closet so that it’s easier for you to see what you have. Get rid of old things that make you feel like you ‘need’ to go shopping.

These are just a few things I’ve done over the last few months to keep me from falling off the shopping wagon. I hope you found this (long) post valuable. Drop a line in the comments and let me know.

Photography: Kaylin James

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A Business Casual Look For The Modern Women

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Once upon a time I walked into a store and saw a cute skirt that I really liked. Knowing that I didn’t need it, I put it back on the rack and walked out the store. Clearly at some point afterwards I got weak.  As you can see I went back and bought the skirt. Judge me all you want, I cares not (insert slight eye roll)!

In Instagram life, I stay in a bang’n outfit, yet in real life not so much. As a matter of fact, here recently my work attire has consisted primarily of plain tops, a pair of jeans or casual pants.  However you will most likely find my footwork on point.  The only reason you might catch me “dressed up” for work is if I have a meeting with big wigs in attendance or for a presentation of some sort.   

Speaking of presentation, last week my manager volunteered me to represent our department at some big process meeting.  Which meant I had to stunt on them with a awesomely cute business casual look.  While I didn’t wear this look, I could have.

Today’s work wear inspiration is simple, comfortable and stylish. I love the rich plum color of this midi skirt and it paired perfectly with this glen plaid blazer. For a bit of excitement, I opted for this mustard top (which is actually a dress - look here) for a pop of color.  Although business casual indicates an office appropriate attire you can still have a little fun with it.  A mix of tailored and/or traditional pieces with more fashion-forward items are the way to go.   

Just because your office has a dress code, doesn’t mean you can’t get a little creative with your work outfit.  Depending on the amount of wiggle room within your company’s dress code policy you might be able to get away with subtle prints or colors like in today’s look. 

A bomb blazer is always a good go-to option.  Don’t down play making a statement with your accessories (i.e. earrings, necklace, bracelet or ring).  If you’re not fond of the idea of wearing heels all day, a bold colored flat, a pair of mules with a dope print (and dare I say it - a kitten heel) works just as well.  Consider adding a bright color just for the heck of it.  Remember dressing for work doesn’t have to be boring!

Photography: Kaylin James

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Blazer Weather Is Finally Here!!!

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Whether you agree or not, blazers are eve-ry-thang! They are the easiest way to freshen up your look no matter if you’re wearing a dress or jeans. And if you don’t have at least one go-to blazer in your closet shame on you (kidding, but not really.)

Heading into the autumn season adding a blazer into your day to day wear is a fashion plus. Besides… blazers are a closet stable and they can be an outfit saver on those days when you just can’t seem to get your look together.

Look around guys this “new” blazer trend is something to write home about. When I say “new” blazer trend I’m not talking about your regular run of the mill suit jacket, I’m talking about the latest blazer trend that’s amped up with some of the dopest statement making patterned, colored and textured styled blazers.

I am so here and ready for this years fall fashion. Just get ready to see me in a blazer almost every post. And while I haven’t done it yet, I plan on diving into the whole statement belt or fanny pack cinched around the waist blazer trend soon.

You don’t have to wear a statement blazer everyday, but when you do… you need to shut the entire scene down!!!

Photography: Kaylin James

Melodie Stewart, Atlanta Personal Stylist, Top Atlanta Blogger
Melodie Stewart, Atlanta Personal Stylist, Top Atlanta Blogger
Melodie Stewart, Atlanta Personal Stylist, Top Atlanta Blogger
Melodie Stewart, Atlanta Personal Stylist, Top Atlanta Blogger

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Bright Yellow Sweater + Silver Pleated Skirt Holiday Look

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With Christmas only two days away, yesterday should have been my last day of shopping, instead it was my first day.  Judge all you want, I care's not!  What I'm most looking forward to is the extra day off from work and scrolling through my shopping apps admiring all the after Christmas sales that I won't be taking advantage of (or at least that's the plan.)

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Did you know that yesterday was the first day of winter?  And while here in Atlanta we haven't really experienced the really really cold temps, I'm sure it's on the way.  Which means I need to make sure my winter wardrobe is up to par.  Starting with today's outfit.  Most people naturally gravitate to dark wintery colors - greys, blacks, browns, navy, neutrals - boring (unless it's cute).  Not me, this winter season I'm looking to add bright vibrant colors to my closet.  

I mean, why should spring and summer have all the fun colors?  They shouldn't!  That's why I've decided that for winter this year I'm adding splashes of brightness to my winter looks.  You should too, I promise it will definitely get noticed.  Plus bright colors are an instant mood lifter and it will keep you from looking drab.  

The color combo of today's look is just what the style doctor ordered, considering the week (at work) I've had.  I picked up this sunny yellow sweater from Forever 21 a few weeks ago while on a shopping binge (hence the shopping fast) and immediately fell for it.  I mean what's not to love about it?  The one I'm wearing isn't available online, but this yellow sweater from Asos will do just fine.  

I paired the sweater with this Zara silver metallic pleated skirt for a cute and casual holiday look and opted to complete the look with these black ShoeDazzle booties I found hiding in the back of my closet.  Another bootie option, are these platform booties from H&MIf I said to you this skirt was not longer available, you might be disappointed.  BUT, I was looking out for you, check out this dup silver pleated skirt from AsosIt's a game changer.  

The best part about this post is that I've linked to a few really dope alternative options if you'd like to recreate my look.  See below.  Btw...  Have you gotten your holiday outfits picked out yet? I would love to know what you plan to wear!!  Talk to me in the comments below.   

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Atlanta Blogger, Top Style Blogger, Black Blogger
Atlanta Blogger, Top Style Blogger, Black Blogger
Atlanta Blogger, Top Style Blogger, Black Blogger

Sweater -- Forever 21 // Skirt -- Zara // Booties -- ShoeDazzle (old) // Handbag -- Aldo // Hat -- Forever 21 // Sunnies -- Mall Kiosk

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